it's not what your kid does at 20. . .

parenting is hard and doesn't pay well either.
there is no fairy godmother who magically appears at the same moment the crisis does.
there are no gold stars for effort.
there are no guarantees.
heck, the child you are parenting may not even like you at this very moment. . . may even hate you.
we need to keep in mind that it is not what your child does at 5, or 9, or 14, or 20. it's who your child is at 40. . . maybe i should make that 50. . .